philosophy

New Method 10 | Start Actually Listening

Sharmadean Reid

07 Mar 2025 — 2 min read

This is your weekly affirmation to help you build your personal philosophy. Have a great weekend!

Take a deep breathe in...and say it with me...

We have so much to say after years of silence. When we find communion with others on our vibration it can be easy to unload everything on our mind. But we listen. We actively listen to build trust. To do this we stay present; check our understanding of the conversation with clarifying questions: encourage the conversation; validate their emotions; question deeper; give feedback IF they ask for it; embrace the silent moments; try to avoid killing the conversation. If talking to someone we do not vibe with, embrace every conversation as an opportunity to work on our listening and communication skills and learn about new types of humans. Those dead-end conversations with people you’ll never see again are perfect for practicing.

Actions

Master the Art of Listening: At parties, focus on asking thoughtful questions and validating others’ experiences instead of dominating the conversation.
Embrace the Pause: Use silences confidently—they add intrigue and give space for deeper connections.
Level Up Your Small Talk: Treat every conversation, even fleeting ones, as practice for sharpening your charm and communication skills.

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